DAY 6:
Apparently, I need to take this word a bit more seriously. Dedicated. Yup, I was. To my BuJo all day (aside from a few minutes on Minecraft and an attempted nap that didn’t quite do what it was supposed to do.
I will say though that it is a unique situation for me to feel the crunch of a deadline. I’m usually done well in advance of even my own pre-determined goalposts, so having less than 15 minutes in order to get this written (I’m currently throwing all caution to the wind and writing this directly in WP for a change, even though I know this can lead to absolute disaster when it doesn’t save properly and I am left aching for my words to return to my screen. Right; good idea. I’ll C/P them repeatedly as I go along. Thanks!)
What are you dedicated to in any given day? Do you give yourself time to do all things you HAVE to do, and try to squeeze a few microseconds out of the day to do the things you WANT to do?
It is a proven fact that you will make time for the things you feel are most important in your current life; that includes people and fun and crafts and healthy choices.
A lot of times, we are so caught up in how we have to just get through the day that we don’t stop to think of things like colouring a fun little frog with 18 different shades of green, and know that literally almost the entire population of the world will most likely never see it.
But, I’m dedicated to this endeavour (and tomorrow I’ll definitely give this more time!), and I will have tons of fun new pictures to show you.
For now, even though is far from where I wanted this to go, I must stop in order to reach my 5pm deadline. But I will show you the frog.
this is my fun little Quotes I love page. Opposite to it will be my 365 days of Joy – which will be short memory pieces of the thing(s) that I’m happy with each day.
See you tomorrow!!
DAY 7 – RESILIENT
resilient
rɪˈzɪlɪənt/
adjective
adjective: resilient
1.
(of a substance or object) able to recoil or spring back into shape after bending, stretching, or being compressed.
“a shoe with resilient cushioning”
synonyms: flexible, pliable, pliant, supple, plastic, elastic, springy, rubbery; More
durable, hard-wearing, stout, strong, sturdy, tough
“remember that the more resilient the underlay, the more it will prolong the life of your carpet”
antonyms: inflexible, rigid, fragile
2.
(of a person or animal) able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions.
“babies are generally far more resilient than new parents realize”
synonyms: strong, tough, hardy;
antonyms: vulnerable, sensitive
We face hard days. Many of us have S.A.D. and are affected greatly by the winter. I thought I was going to become immune to that down here in the Caribbean, but the weather has been anything but fun most days, and I haven’t had the opportunity to go swimming in well over two months now. That severely bums me out. I can raise my eyes and look out at the spot I last swam at, knowing my back is to the bay of water that I got to see my octobabies… even in the Caribbean, the winter is affecting me negatively, and it sucks.
I’m not saying that others have it better than me: I need to make this clear right now. YOUR STRUGGLES are YOURS. Anyone who is slight and petty and insecure with their own lives will try to minimise what you go through. YES, someone currently is going through a situation that is checking off all the boxes of a shitty day; you don’t need to compare yourself to them. You’re allowed to have YOUR own shitty day. Just like you can have your own amazing day, and hopefully you have far more of those than you have crapfests. I’m so tired of people, the media, dogmatic beliefs, and other areas and sources for negative bombardment propaganda bullshit that tell you you have it better if you meet XYZ qualifiers, and you’re not allowed to be depressed or anxious or anything. It’s the “Starving kids in Africa” mentality that does two horrible things to people. First, it desensitises people from the actual issue that is being faced – the fact that the ones who use that as a ploy to get the other party to feel badly for feeling badly about their own situation DO NOT DO anything to help said starving kids in Africa, they just like to use them as a trump card of sorts to make the person who is dealing with a situation feel shittier. Secondly, it diminishes and devalues the actual struggle the person is going through.
How do we become resilient to the pain and the people who are out to seriously damage our calm?
I have a few suggestions. Take them for what they are worth, mould and shape them into something that is a viable option and way for you to incorporate into your own life:
- Listen to your HEALTHY friends, family, professional help (Family Doctor, Therapist, etc). I don’t mean the one who can bench press a truck. I mean the ones who are resilient and strong and honest with you. Listen to them, and know that they can see what is affecting you in a different way than they know you deserve.
- Allow yourself time to heal from things. Too often, we are bombarded with the push to get back on the horse, and we are never asked the simple question: DO you NEED to get back on the horse (or go back to that shitty job that gave you a nervous breakdown, stay with the horrible spouse, etc).
- Learn your limits, so you don’t over stress your life, mental health, physical stamina; whatever it is that taxes you, learn to know when to say “ENOUGH!” You will be able to recover from minor bumps in life’s roadways much much faster than if you don’t listen to your limits.
- YOUR SPOONS – knowing whether or not you have the capacity to take on someone else’s stresses as well. I will cover spoons in an upcoming article, but I do want to point out that being resilient means you’re replenishing your own [mental] cutlery drawer in your own way, at your speed, and NO ONE has the right to tell you to speed up that timer to use you as a doormat for anything.
- Lastly, if you have taken these suggestions to heart, you’ll know that your self-worth isn’t tied to others. It is how you present yourself.
There are two fantastic quotes from the same gentleman that I want to share with you, and though it doesn’t really have anything to do with resilience, it does speak to how you carry yourself (and that does affect your resilient nature to some degree.)
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.” and
“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think of you.” ~ John Wooden
I haven’t really done too much more in my BuJo to show off yet, but I will probably have a tidy little collection for tomorrow’s post! For now, I’ll show you the fun little butterfly I had a blast drawing and colouring in.
My BuJo butterfly at the top of my mini calendar
See you tomorrow!
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